Excerpts from November Senior Spirit Newsletter
The easy part may be packing up your possessions. The harder aspect is
saying good-bye to what may be a lifetime of memories or choosing what is
essential for you. What can you give away or give up? Who or what should be the
recipient? What should you keep?
For adults over 60, only a spouse's death and divorce rank as more
stressful than moving to a nursing or retirement home, according to the Social
Readjustment Rating Scale—the Stress Scale.
Tips for Downsizing
Start slowly: It will be emotionally easier to tackle one room or part of a room at a time, giving yourself some breaks in between. (Consider
distracting yourself with a movie or dinner with friends). You can start with an easier room, like a bathroom, that has less emotional impact. Once you’ve
emptied one larger room, use it to organize the rest of the house or apartment.
Be easy on yourself.
Organize: Figure out exactly how much space you will have in your
new home, including storage in the kitchen, closets and cabinets. How many
dishes, clothes, books and so forth will you have room for? If your new space is
half of what you have now, you know how much you have to get rid of. If you have
more possessions than space, you can always rent a storage locker, but it can be
expensive over the long haul and may just put off the hard decisions of what to
keep and what to get rid of.
To stay organized, create piles for things you want to keep, give to
family and friends, sell/donate or throw away. To make letting go easier, take
photos of what you’re leaving behind. To help with the decision-making process,
it’s sometimes easier to ask, “What do I absolutely need” or "Which is my
favorite piece" and then see how much room is left for anything else.
Get help: Because downsizing can be a painful process, both emotionally
and physically, don’t be afraid to ask for help. It’s an opportunity to go down
memory lane with friends and family . At the same time, you can give away
possessions to your loved ones, including items you may have been planning to
give them after your death. Passing them on now means you can tell the story
behind the gift or reiterate your affection for the person—whether your
childhood best friend, your granddaughter or your favorite walking companion.
Paperwork and pictures: Because going through old papers, personal
notes, documents and photos is time-consuming, and because they often don’t take
up a lot of space, you can pack these items and deal with them after you move.
But if you do have time, it’s better to get rid of the papers and photos that no
longer have any meaning. Make sure you shred any documents with personal
information, account identification and especially Social Security numbers. You
can digitize (on your computer) documents and photos you want to keep but don’t
have space for computer (see sidebar).
Selling or Giving It Away
After sorting and packing possessions, you arrive at the big task of getting rid
of the stuff you chose not keep.
If you think an item is worth money, there are several approaches:
auction houses, antique dealers, consignment shops, garage sales, eBay or
Craigslist. Each has advantages and disadvantages, including varying costs. You
can use an appraiser to determine the value, but you need to have enough items
to make the appraiser’s visit worthwhile. Auction houses want to sell things at
the highest prices and will therefore often offer you more than antique dealers,
who want to purchase items at the lowest price.
Whatever you can’t sell, you can give away. The main donation outlets
include Goodwill, the Salvation Army, AmVets and Purple Heart. You can also find
charities that might be more in line with your values, such as the Humane
Society or a hospital/hospice outlet.
Before you donate, it’s a good idea to check online or over the phone to
see if your chosen charity has any restrictions on what it accepts: for example,
no furniture or electronics, or only clothes and housewares. Also find out if
they are willing to pick up larger items.
You can target certain items for certain places; for example, take
musical instruments to schools or old tools to auto repair shops. Nonprofits or
local schools can use old magazines for art projects, and homeless shelters or
abused women shelters can take unused toiletries. Even worn-out items, such as
towels and blankets, are welcome at animal shelters.
To get rid of other items that don’t seem reusable, try Freecycle; you
never know; someone might be looking for a broken lawn mower to use as part of a
backyard sculpture. Freecycle Network is
a nonprofit group with members dedicated to recycling. Items are posted online
for anyone who wants them. If nothing else works, set items on the curb with a
sign that says “Help yourself.”
Getting Professional Help
With the population of older adults growing, it’s no surprise that
businesses catering to all aspects of helping seniors move are increasing. The
number of local companies registered with the National Association of Senior Move Managers has
grown from 30 to more than 800 since 2002, according to the group. Companies
such as Caring Transitions can
help manage the process and carry out your wishes.
Senior move managers specialize in helping older adults with both the
emotional and practical dimensions of late-life transitions. Managers can
arrange estate sales, locate and deliver items to storage facilities or
coordinate donations to charities (“New businesses help unload the stress of
moving seniors,” USA
Today). Hourly rates range from $30 to $90 depending on location.
“7 Helpful Tips for Downsizing Seniors’ Homes,” Home
“20 Tips to Help You Get Rid of Junk,” Caring.com
“Downsizing Tips for Seniors,” Senior
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Society of Certified Senior Advisors