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Monday, January 16, 2012

On the Market Again

Baby boomers and their parents are dating again. Death and divorce are causing single seniors to search for someone special—again.

In the past, people in their 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, and 80’s who have lost a spouse would live alone for the rest of their lives. But social norms have changed dramatically, and people are living longer than ever before. Today, more older people are looking to fill the gap, share their lives with another person. They’re looking for relationships.

If you are thinking about dating again, here are a few things to consider:

• Tell people you’re interesting in finding a new relationship. This is just another form of networking. Tell family members, friends, peers, fellow-office workers or volunteers that you’re ready. Perhaps someone can introduce you a lovely individual he or she knows. Readiness is the key here.

• Explore your options for meeting new people. There are dozens of places to find new partners: church or temple, classes, the gym, civic organizations, museums, book stores, sporting events…you can meet people of both genders with whom you can take part in different activities. And then there’s on-line dating which is increasingly popular among seniors who seem to be more successful at it than younger generations. There are numerous websites that are designed specifically for seniors.

• Relax. Enjoy meeting new people and try not to put pressure on yourself to find someone immediately. Things happen when they happen.

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~Laraine Jablon

Laraine Jablon, BA, MA, is a freelance writer specializing in social, health, and spiritual concerns of seniors. She lives in Nesconset, New York, and welcomes your thoughts.